Cappy Hour
I'm Brian “Cappy” Cappello — 50% Italian, 99% Irish (I should probably go by Sully). Designed to be fun, and to be THE go-to recoverycast for learning & laughing while killing time. We'll talk addiction & sobriety, plus life's 98 other problems: ADHD, people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-love, trauma, connection, regrets, forgiveness, authenticity, inviting discomfort & embracing the cringe. Short on backstories, long on witty, educated banter.
I once quit for 3.5 years and am right back there w/28+ months of sobriety, going on infinity. Rebirth: 3/18/24
Episodes

7 days ago
7 days ago
1hr 1 min
Can recovering alcoholics really be around alcohol without relapsing? It's one of the most controversial ideas in addiction recovery, and in this episode of The Cappy Hour, Brian from Sober Cappy sits down with addiction recovery expert and author Matt Grace to challenge some of the biggest assumptions about sobriety.
With more than 21 years of sobriety and over 10,000 hours working with individuals and families affected by addiction, Matt explains why lasting recovery is about far more than simply avoiding alcohol. Together, Brian and Matt discuss alcohol addiction, relapse prevention, recovery routines, accountability, purpose, service, and what it truly takes to achieve long-term sobriety. Whether you're in recovery, supporting a loved one, or simply interested in understanding alcohol addiction and the psychology behind lasting change, this conversation offers practical insights that may completely change the way you think about sobriety.
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Jul 17, 2026
Jul 17, 2026
1hr 8 min
In this episode I am joined by David Hanson, a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who has spent 8+ years helping people with sex/ porn addiction recovery and heal the shame underneath it all.
We go deep on:
· What causes porn addiction and sex addiction· How to stop porn addiction and break the cycle of compulsive sexual behavior· ADHD and hypersexuality: Why Impulse Control is Harder· Sex and love addiction vs. porn addiction· Is masturbation an addiction?· Cold showers and cold plunges to stop cravings· Shame, religion, and masturbation· Childhood trauma, controlling parents, and the root causes of sex addiction· Sex addiction recovery and rebuilding relationships after betrayal
If you've ever struggled with pornography addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, ADHD or relationship issues, this conversation will give you practical insights, hope and a completely different perspective on recovery.
Books mentioned:TENSA: Trauma Induced Sex Addiction by Michael BartaWhen He's Married to Mom by Dr. Ken AdamsOut of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
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https://www.embraceveritas.com/meet-our-team
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Jul 10, 2026
Jul 10, 2026
1hr 14 min
If love could have saved him, he would be alive."
When love isn’t enough to save someone from addiction, what do you do? "
Have you ever felt like you were fighting a losing battle against a "monster" in your own home?
In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, we go beyond the stigma to explore the reality of the opioid crisis, addiction recovery, and the limitations of traditional treatment.
Katie Rizzo joins us to share the story of her son, Nicholas, a bright, 25-year-old athlete who lost his life to an accidental overdose. We tear down the myths surrounding addiction as a personal choice and look at the neuroscience of addiction. We discuss why the 28-day rehab model often fails, and how we can finally start healing. If you are struggling with a loved one’s addiction or feeling lost in the wake of grief, this conversation offers the resources and perspective you need to find the light again.
Here’s what we get into:
* Why the 28-day rehab cycle keeps failing people.
* The neuroscience behind why addiction is so hard to break.
* Processing the loss of a loved one to overdose.
* How to build a community when you feel completely alone.
* What recovery tools actually help when the system isn't there for you.
If you or a loved one are struggling, please know you are not alone. There is no shame in a physiological disease. Watch this video to find hope, community, and the tools to start the journey toward permanent remission.
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Jul 1, 2026
Jul 1, 2026
40 min
Struggling with the boredom of early sobriety? You aren't alone. In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, we uncover why sobriety feels gray, boring and why relapse often strikes right when things seem to be getting easier. Megan Willcox (founder of Soba Sisters) shares her journey- losing 3.5 years of sobriety, the six-year road to getting back on track, and the lessons learned along the way. If you’re feeling stuck, newly sober, or battling the urge to drink, this conversation is your guide to building a life you don't want to escape.In this episode, we tackle:The "Gray Period": Why early sobriety feels boring and how to navigate it.Understanding PAWS: What Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome really feels like.The Relapse Trap: Why relapse happens even after years of being sober.The Secret Weapon: Why a strong, supportive sober community is the missing piece for long-term recovery.Building Resilience: Simple, daily habits that fortify you against the urge to drink.Letting Go: How to finally say goodbye to your old drinking life for good.If you’re ready to stop fighting the same battles, let’s get to work.🎧 New sobriety and alcohol recovery podcast episodes drop every week. Hit subscribe so you don't miss a beat.
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Jun 22, 2026
Jun 22, 2026
43 min
There's a voice that lives inside anyone who's struggled with alcohol. It whispers exactly when you're most vulnerable. It knows all your weaknesses. And it never takes no for an answer.
How do you stay sober long-term? Can alcoholics ever drink in moderation? In this episode of The Cappy Hour Podcast, Sober Megan Wilcox shares practical long-term sobriety tips, alcohol relapse prevention strategies, and the neuroscience behind alcohol cravings and addiction.
What we get into:
• Why you still crave alcohol after years sober
• The moderation myth explained
• How alcohol affects dopamine
• Why your brain romanticizes drinking
• Understanding alcoholic neuropathy symptoms
• How sobriety can reverse biological aging
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation.
💬 Leave a comment. Share your story. As Megan says, shame dies when stories are told in safe places.
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Jun 10, 2026
Jun 10, 2026
37 min
2+ years sober and I was still struggling. Isolating. Skipping the gym. Pulling away from community. Even doing shots of NA bourbon just to get myself to film this Podcast.Nobody talks about this part. The part where you've already done the hard work of getting sober and then slowly, without even noticing, you start letting it all slip.
This episode is me being completely honest about what happens when you stop doing the work. How it sneaks up on you. How the voice gets louder when you pull away. And why community is the single most important thing standing between you and a relapse - no matter how long you have been sober.What we get into:
What isolation actually does to your sobriety
Why I stopped showing up and what it cost me
The ADHD connection nobody talked to me about
Why community changes everything
How I got back on track — and what finally worked
If any of this sounds like where you are right now - the quiet slipping, the pulling away, the doing it alone - this episode is for you.If you're early in sobriety and you haven't found your people yet, please don't wait. Community isn't a bonus. It's the work. It is the thing that keeps the voice quiet.That is exactly why I built "Rewired Nation"Join my community here: https://openinapp.link/nr9s1Connect with me here :-
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#SoberLife #SobrietyPodcast #AlcoholFree #RecoveryPodcast #SoberCommunity #ADHDAndAlcohol #SoberLiving #AddictionRecovery #SoberStrong #AlcoholRecovery #RecoveryCommunity #SoberAndThriving #SoberCurious #SobrietyMotivation #AlcoholFreeLife
May 27, 2026
May 27, 2026
49 min
"I drank for happiness and became unhappy. I drank for joy and became miserable."That's how powerful alcohol addiction really is.
Alcoholism doesn't start with the vodka under your desk. It starts with a couple IPAs after a stressful day. Then a four pack. Then a bottle hidden from your wife. Then drinking before your 7 am meetings.
In this episode of the Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with my friend and high-tech sales executive Derek Donahue - someone I never would have thought as having a drinking problem. Derek shares about his secret battle with alcohol addiction and what finally made it stop.
We talk about:* How a successful corporate sales career masked a hidden drinking problem* Why alcoholism is a progressive disease and how it sneaks up on you* How COVID and workplace stress accelerated his addiction* The IPA to vodka pipeline that nobody sees coming* Why hiding alcohol from your family is part of the disease* How isolation makes addiction ten times worse* Why relapse starts long before you take the first drink* What 19 months of sobriety actually feels like day to day* Finding community in AA even when the steps aren't for you* Why willpower has nothing to do with beating addiction
If you've ever felt like you were living two different lives, hiding something from the people you love, or wondering if your drinking has gone too far… this conversation will change how you think about alcohol forever.
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#sobriety #alcoholrecovery #addictionrecovery #progressivealcoholism #relapseprevention #adhd #soberlife #alcoholism #dopamine #corporatestress #soberpodcast
May 15, 2026
May 15, 2026
1hr 15 min
What if failing at sobriety wasn't about weakness - it was about never understanding how your brain actually works?
For years, I told myself I just didn't have enough willpower. That I was the problem. But the more I dug into ADHD and addiction, the more I realised something nobody had ever told me: my brain wasn't broken. It was doing exactly what it was designed to do — seeking relief from the chaos, the overwhelm, the noise that never stops.
Alcohol was never the real problem. It was the solution my brain found first.
In this episode of the Cappy Hour Podcast, I sit down with Tracey Goodwin - who has helped many ADHD minds find their way back to themselves. We talk about perfectionism, ADHD & Alcohol addiction, and why doing the deep inner work isn't just helpful -it's non-negotiable if you want long-term recovery.
I'll be honest with you - I spent years failing at sobriety before I understood any of this. I'd wake up every morning planning to stop, and by the evening that voice in my head had already talked me out of it. I didn't need more willpower. I needed to understand what was actually happening inside my brain.
If you've ever used alcohol to focus, to calm down, to get through a social situation, to silence the racing thoughts- you're not weak. For an ADHD brain, that was a completely logical response.
The question is, what do you replace it with? That's what Tracey and I are here to talk about.
In This Episode:
* Why ADHD brains self-medicate with alcohol and how to break the cycle
* The "Wonder Twins" theory: sobriety + ADHD = a unique superpower
* How perfectionism fuels procrastination and relapse
* The role of childhood trauma in addiction
* Cold showers, dopamine hacks, and morning routines that actually work for ADHD
* Why isolation leads to relapse and what community truly does for your brain
* The whisper before the craving: how to catch it before your midbrain takes over
* Accountability partners and the power of processing out loud
Tracy also shares details about her free virtual event Make ADHD Your Genius —definitely worth checking out, link below.
👇 HAVE YOU EVER SELF-MEDICATED YOUR ADHD WITHOUT EVEN REALISING IT? Drop your story in the comments.
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May 8, 2026
May 8, 2026
1hr 4 min
“I almost died… and I still went back to drinking.”That’s how powerful addiction can be.
Alcohol addiction doesn’t start with the drink. It starts with the voice that tells you this time will be different.
In this episode of Sober Cappy Podcast, I sit down with Chris Follari, who shares the reality of alcoholism and relapse after surviving open heart surgery and a stroke.
We talk about:
• The mental obsession behind alcohol addiction• Why relapse starts long before the first drink• Why people relapse after months or years sober• ADHD and addictive behavior• The role of isolation in recovery• Cross addiction after quitting alcohol• Recovery communities and therapy• Learning how to rebuild your life sober
If you’ve ever struggled with alcohol, relapse or feeling trapped in unhealthy cycles, this conversation is for you!
Topics covered:
Sobriety, alcohol recovery, addiction psychology, ADHD symptoms, dopamine, compulsive behavior, recovery motivation, mental health awareness and emotional healing.
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#sobriety #adhd #addictionrecovery #alcoholrecovery #recoverypodcast #dopamine #selfimprovement #relapseprevention #adhd
Apr 27, 2026
Apr 27, 2026
1hr 4 min
Productivity isn’t about doing more… it’s about making things easier to start.
In this episode, I sit down with ADHD author Karla Genj (Ivy Castillo) to unpack the real challenges of staying productive with ADHD. From dopamine dips and procrastination to time tracking, routines and accountability… this is a raw, honest conversation about what actually works in day-to-day life.
We also explore:
Why motivation is unreliable
How small actions create momentum
ADHD-friendly productivity systems
The role of environment and habits
Practical ways to stay consistent as an entrepreneur
If you’ve ever said “I’ll start later” and never did… this episode is for you.
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https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079934/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92
https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079935/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92
https://www.ivycastillo.com/tr/2/13330042/12757166006/41079936/380572552dd4c7d264dcde54f7d5d0cc1f8dd8b92
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